Comments on: I don’t even know. http://these-words.org/2008/04/23/i-dont-even-know/ Sat, 22 Nov 2008 10:54:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Amanda http://these-words.org/2008/04/23/i-dont-even-know/#comment-342 Amanda Wed, 23 Apr 2008 15:48:20 +0000 http://these-words.org/?p=251#comment-342 It seems to me, like you're taking too much responsibility for things that are completely out of your control. It seems like he needs to do some self evaluating because you cannot MAKE him take things differently. You have a right to be able to vent, discuss, etc.. whatever you may feel the need to and the attitude of "Well, it's an argument" is a childish thing to do imo. Mature adults address problems and communicate about them like you want to do. It's hard to fix something when it's all one sided, i experienced this in my last relationship. It's a big difference when you're with someone who will work with you and you can see that yeah, I'm entitled to feel this way and he doesn't need to assume it's for this or that reason. The 4 month layoff? He needs to at least be trying to look into getting another job. Being together for a year and seeing each other only twice? One would think that he would be putting more effort into this whole thing so that you two could be physically together more than you have been. You're not the bad guy here, you two need to talk and he needs to step up in the responsibility department for your relationship to work. You deserve that much. It seems to me, like you’re taking too much responsibility for things that are completely out of your control. It seems like he needs to do some self evaluating because you cannot MAKE him take things differently. You have a right to be able to vent, discuss, etc.. whatever you may feel the need to and the attitude of “Well, it’s an argument” is a childish thing to do imo. Mature adults address problems and communicate about them like you want to do. It’s hard to fix something when it’s all one sided, i experienced this in my last relationship. It’s a big difference when you’re with someone who will work with you and you can see that yeah, I’m entitled to feel this way and he doesn’t need to assume it’s for this or that reason. The 4 month layoff? He needs to at least be trying to look into getting another job. Being together for a year and seeing each other only twice? One would think that he would be putting more effort into this whole thing so that you two could be physically together more than you have been.

You’re not the bad guy here, you two need to talk and he needs to step up in the responsibility department for your relationship to work. You deserve that much.

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