Divorce…only to remarry?
When two people get divorced, I always assumed it was a forever thing between the two of them; that it was the end of the relationship, no more being together aside from mutual friendship or for the sake of children. However, it seems to be fairly common for two people to divorce only to remarry each other later or to continue having a relationship without the bond of marriage as if they were married.Â
This comes about after looking at an updated myspace profile for an old guild mate from World of Warcraft. When we played together, he was 21 and going through a divorce. Despite the differences and issues he had with Shannon (his ex-wife), he still loved her…after all he did marry her for a reason, right? They parted ways for awhile, each living their own lives and dating other people but still kept in contact and had a friendship. A few months later (after the divorce was finalized), Shannon became pregnant with Aaron’s (the old guild mate) child and they got back together after working on some the issues they had when married. They now have a 6 month old son who is absolutely adorable and are engaged to be REMARRIED.
After I thought about this some, I realized that I had another friend whose parents were divorced and had been divorced for years but yet they continued to be together and actually lived in the same house as if they were still married. I don’t find this weird but at the same time…I don’t understand. I realize that people stay friends after divorce, that parents try to be civil for the sake of the children, but I don’t really comphrend why you would get divorced only to stay together as if you still were married? I would also think that if you loved each other as much as you do to the point that you would marry each other, that you’d be able to work out the issues you have without divorcing because what does divorce actually solve expect give you the liberty to be with and see other people without breaking any kind of rules. Perhaps, that is what people need sometimes is to see if they are missing out on something or if they can find something else that makes them happy but if that is the case, one should not be getting married in the first place.
I’m not saying that two people cna’t be in love and not be married and that when divorce happens you fall out of love with the person you marry because this is almost always NOT the case, but I don’t understand the concept – divorce, only to remarry the same person later? Either way, I am glad to see that Aaron is happy and his life seems to be going great. To each his own and if getting divorced is what it takes to fix your marital issues only for you to live happily ever after with each other than so be it!
March 18th, 2008 at 2:21 pm
That is a bit weird, completely agree. I’m not sure I’d want to keep in contact on a friends basis with someone I was to get divorced from… it’s odd.
March 19th, 2008 at 3:09 pm
my church that is marrying my fiance and i actually had a testimony in their booklet about a man & woman who had gotten married, divorced, and remarried & were now happier than ever.
i think a lot of people get a divorce because they get scared. they think there’s no way that person could be their soul mate if they’re fighting so much, etc. and society tends to romanticize love & not actualize it, so people have it worked up to be all butterflies & glitter when in reality, there are some really hard times in most relationships.
i think age also has a lot to do with it in some circumstances. well maybe not age as much as maturity – but statistics show the older you are when you get married, the better chance you’ll stay together. i think you learn that things don’t have to be perfect to be perfect… if that makes sense
with that being said, you can find comfort in the fact that i never plan on divorcing then remarrying my FI! lol